Moving to do DClinPsy

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newmember2017
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Moving to do DClinPsy

Post by newmember2017 » Thu Jun 07, 2018 12:30 pm

Hi all

Has anyone any advice or could share their experiences of what it is like to move a fairly large distance to do the DClinPsy (having to get flights home etc), particuarly if you are in a long-term relationship/married and it isn't ideal for your partner to move with you.

This has been such a strange time - being offered an amazing opportunity and wanting to celebrate that but it also causing a lot of stress and difficulty in other areas of my life.

Thanks!

Bronwen1991
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Re: Moving to do DClinPsy

Post by Bronwen1991 » Thu Jun 07, 2018 1:17 pm

Hi Newmember2017

I think I can relate to how your feeling but my issue is the opposite. I don't live that far away from my placement base, but it is just far enough to be too long to commute.

I also have that strange feeling that sits between "wow this is such an amazing opportunity, I'm excited" and "oh no I think I have to move and how will this impact my life, relationship and well-being."

Right now I am struggling with it, but for me I know I can't NOT do this. For me any sacrifice will be worth it in the end. But I guess each person will have to weight that up.

In terms of my plans...well I just don't know. If the placement days don't exceed 3, I think I wont move and I'll travel and use AirBnB for those days. However this will be expensive. If the placement requires 4/5 days, I think I will have to move. I have known trainees that do a 5 day rent and travel home on the weekends, and that travel is pretty far (i.e. flights etc) and they made it work.

I also know some trainee's that moved and it was too much for the relationship to manage, but eventually they realized it was for the best.

It is such a difficult choice, and I don't know if you feel this, but on top of the choices, decisions etc I then feel guilty for even feeling some negativity about it i.e. "how can I feel bad about this, when I have been so lucky to be given this opportunity!"

I hope you receive some more experiences from trainee's or qualified's, and I will be reading also.

Best wishes,

Bronwen

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Re: Moving to do DClinPsy

Post by Holly85 » Thu Jun 07, 2018 3:36 pm

Hi,

I just wanted to say that I am also in the same position. I am having to move a long way for the dclinpsy and my partner isn't able to move with me. It is such a mixed bag of emotions echoing what bronwen said. Although I don't feel like I can give you any ad ice on this as I am in the same position as you I do hope it all goes well for you and I will also be following what others say.

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Re: Moving to do DClinPsy

Post by Eriya » Sun Jun 17, 2018 8:21 pm

I'm in a similar position - wanting to be happy about getting a place on the doctorate, but feeling utterly stressed and sad about having to move. I'm not in a relationship, so don't have to worry about that, but there are other factors in play, such as my friendships and family. As I will be moving with my 2 cats (and no humans) I won't be able to visit my friends and family at all, unless I find someone who will be willing to look after my cats. I also don't drive, which just complicates things, as trains are expensive!! And I can totally relate to that guilty feeling - how can I not be 100% happy about being given the opportunity to do the doctorate??

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Re: Moving to do DClinPsy

Post by Bronwen1991 » Mon Jun 18, 2018 10:26 am

Eriya

A big change is never 100% positive. There is always sacrifice and we shouldn't have to feel guilty for the negatives.

We will work it out. I have recently connected with other trainee's to be at Plymouth, and this has made me feel so much better as I know they are feeling it too.

If you were in Devon I would have happily cat sat for you. I also have too cats! However previously when I have gone away and no one has been there to care for them I have used a reputable cattery and my two were absolutely fine!

Best wishes,

Bronwen

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Re: Moving to do DClinPsy

Post by miriam » Mon Jun 18, 2018 1:28 pm

You might well find a cat-friendly peer on training, or someone who has a pet that means you can form a reciprocal arrangement. But there are paid services to come in and feed/play with/walk animals in most towns too. So I'm sure you'll come up with something.
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